On Marriage

So this week some friends of ours came close to calling quits on their marriage. Which prompted a discussion between Chris and myself on what we feel are deal breakers. The thing is that we do not really have a lot of them. The two that come to mind are cheating and abuse. Neither of which we have had a problem with. The thing is that Chris and I are in a really good place right now. There has been a time in our short marriage where we were not getting along and we were emotionally disconnected. It lasted a little while but I think that we got our groove back, it is not like our life has been a bed of roses so a little emotional disconnect was ok. I know that I could not live my life like that. Thankfully things are good. Actually really good.

I could not imagine life without Chris and this strange wonderful little family that we have created. I keep thinking how much we have grown up being married. How having the kids has changed us. How I have learned the art of compromise (most of the time) and how I have learned that not all things are "a hill that I would die on". I have learned that it is best not to talk politics first thing in the morning and if I want to go to bed happy probably not late at night either. I have learned that saying I love you and meaning I love you are two different things. I have learned that it is hard to be mad at someone who laughs during a fight and I have learned to fight fair, in the present. I have learned that having someone there when you are at your absolute worse who still loves you is an amazing thing. Money really does not make you happy, it may make it easier but I think that the hard road has brought us closer as a couple. I have learned that it is completely possible to fall in love with the same person over and over again. (Especially when they vacuum the carpet, crawl into a tent that the kids have made in the living room, kiss boo boos, and as archaic as it sounds fight for my honor) I hope that in 10 or 20 or even 50 more years that I will still get up in the morning and still feel blessed with all that I have.
I hope that my friends find their way because truly being married has made my life soo much better and I want everyone to have that.